Adoption
Every family with an adoption story has heard…
“There is no adoption without loss.”
Secrets are protected…
Difficult truths…
Lack of access…
So many questions…
Who has the answers?
When are children old enough to know?
Will they understand?
When the answers aren’t available…
We fill in the gaps…
With loss…
With brokenness…
With failure…
“They didn’t love or want me” becomes “I’m unlovable.”
“They weren’t safe” becomes “I can’t trust anyone.”
“They have mental health concerns” becomes “This child I’ve adopted will have difficulties like their (first) mom.”
You can change the narrative.
Therapy is not about rewriting the hard parts of your story to find a silver lining.
It’s a safe space to process losses, grieve, and recover.
It’s about sitting in the feelings, thinking through the known facts, and intentionally filling in those gaps in a way that’s truthful and helpful.
It’s about making meaning of what happened then and how it still affects you now.
It’s about having a partner to encourage and challenge you along the way.
Let me be your partner.
Clarifying your story and learning to think critically about the implicit and explicit messages you’ve received can be life-giving.
We can make sense of how your personal experiences and the stories you inherited from others about your past have impacted how you feel, act, and think about yourself, others, and the world.
It’s time to gain insight and clarity about who you are and who you want to be.
Let’s lean in together. Call me today for a free consultation: (214) 534-5380.